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Me and 23 - Happy, gay, and thriving

For me, Fall is the season of celebration. September 28th was the third anniversary of when I first started taking medication for my bi-polar disorder, October is Filipino-American History Month, October 2nd was my 23rd birthday, and October 12th was the first year anniversary of me coming out of the closet. Usually I make a dedicated post for my mental health journey, but with one extra thing to celebrate, why not combine them?

Truthfully I'm not even sure what to say about my mental health journey, other than that I'm doing great! Being on meds, cutting out toxic people, leaving a toxic job environment, and being kinder to yourself does that to you.

Now, let's get to the gay.

It's been a great year. Coming out of the closet felt like a breath of fresh air when I didn't even realize that I had been drowning for 22 years. I've formed friendships solely on the basis of queerness. It's been really great having bonds with people that understand me. Even more so, I've had a couple of people reach out to me asking for advice about coming out. That, to me, is crazy. Me? You want my help? I don't think that I've done anything monumental. But, maybe I did. Amidst a heteronormative society, it's important that we find people that we can connect to to talk to about our sexualities.

I can encourage people as much as I want to come out of the closet and feel free just like me, but I'd be daft not to recognize my privilege in being able to even say that. I have a supportive family, a community, and I live in a (mostly) open-minded community. There are people that have experienced hate crimes, have been kicked out of their house, and more.

Community and representation have really helped me sense of my sexuality. Watching Pride on Hulu made me so emotional because I can't ever imagine going through the things that the lgbt+ community had gone through to afford us the opportunities that we have today. I mean, hell. We have such a good handful of queer representation in tv, movies, books, music, video games, and more now (I'll put a list of shows with sapphic/wlw canon couples at the end of this post). Even kids cartoons have queer couples now. Oh, how I wish I had Lumity growing up. They would have saved me from a lot of self-repressive pain.

Personally, I'm more than happy to be the person that can lend the "gay perspective," whether it be from someone that's questioning and needs support or someone that just wants to be more open-minded and educated. Now, that's just me speaking on my own behalf. Not everyone wants the burden of being a 24/7 resource to educate people, lgbt+ or otherwise.

Anyways, this is all just to say that it's been a great past year as an 'out' woman. Now here's a list of shows with sapphic/wlw couples and how prominent they are (in NO particular order):

  • The Owl House (main character + supporting character)

  • Harley Quinn (both main characters)

  • Motherland: Fort Salem (main character + supporting character)

  • Euphoria (main character + supporting character)

  • Feel Good (both main characters)

  • She's Gotta Have It (main character + minor-ish character)

  • Everything Sucks! (main character + supporting character)

  • Nevertheless (both supporting characters)

  • Atypical (main character + supporting character)

  • Lucifer (supporting character + minor character)

  • The Legend of Korra (main characters, but very much only implied until made canon in the last two minutes of the whole show)

  • Trinkets (main character + minor character x2)

  • One Day at a Time (supporting character + minor character)

  • Steven Universe (both supporting characters)

  • Dickinson (main character + supporting character)

  • The Wilds (both main characters in an ensemble cast)

  • Adventure Time (both supporting characters)

  • Black Mirror (both main characters in San Junipero episode)

  • Love Daily (both main characters in Christmas Dumplings episode)

  • Druck (main character + supporting character in Season 6)

  • She-ra and the Princesses of Power (both main characters)

  • Jane the Virgin (supporting character + minor character)

  • Riverdale (both supporting characters)

  • Sex Education (both minor characters)

  • Never Have I Ever (supporting character + minor character)

  • Haunting of Bly Manor (main character + supporting character)

  • Dead to Me (main character + minor character)

Disclaimer: I haven't watched all of those shows in its entirety. I'm fairly certain I'll never watch Riverdale in its entirety. Here are some shows on my watch list:

  • Sense 8

  • Legacies

  • The Bold Type

  • I Am Not Okay With This

  • The Handmaiden

  • Wynonna Earp

  • The Originals

  • Runaways

  • Legends of Tomorrow

  • Grey's Anatomy

  • The Loud House

  • Black Lightning

I ranked the first list by canon couple in my phone notes but I'll share the order once I've gotten through the rest of the shows on my list. Enjoy!

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